Death, Dying, Grief, and Loss Menu
How do we explore death and dying? As a child, what did we learn from our parents and family about death at the first funeral or memorial service we attended? How has understanding changed as we have aged? How do we let go of control?
Paper on Elisabeth Kubler-Ross: Five-Stages of Dying
By David Tillman
"Kubler-Ross’s study identified five stages of dying: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance."
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The Five Invitations by Frank Ostaseski Book Review
by David Tillman
July 2022
"Death is not waiting for us at the end of the road. Death is always with us, in the marrow of every passing moment. She is the secret teacher hiding in plain sight. She helps us discover what matters most. And the good news is we don’t have to wait
until the end of our lives to realize the wisdom that death has to offer us."
Frank Ostaseski
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Relentless Goodbye – Grief and Love in the Shadow of [Lewy Body] Dementia - Book Review
by David Tillman - October 2013
"The story is written by Ginnie Horst Burkholder. She is married to Nelson Burkholder. Her story starts when she and others begin to notice changes in Nelson’s behavior. Her story continues over the next twenty years. In her book, she then highlights the events and her thoughts for each month, starting in January of 2006 through December 2011. Her story highlights their journey with living with Nelson’s dementia..."
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Eighteen Ways to Be Present When a Loved One is Near Death
By David Tillman
'As a loved one nears death, there is a sacredness to be aware of and present with. We may focus on our and others emotional grief and loss."
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Talking to Children about Dying and Death
By David Tillman
“Take a moment to think how you are going to talk to children about dying and death. "
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Types of Grief and Loss
By David Tillman
A paper on "Types of Grief and Loss" with quotations from various authors
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PowerPoint - Making Sense of Our Grief and Loss
By David Tillman
Slides from a presentation on how we make sense of our grief.
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Storytelling in Small Groups about Grief and Loss
Reflection and Prompts
Storytelling about grief and loss. Quotations and insights from various authors.
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Paper on Ambiguous Loss and Disenfranchised Grief
By David Tillman
Paper on grief books with quotations by Pauline Boss, Kenneth Doka, Thomas Attig, Margaret Kaczmarek/ Barbara Backlund,and Millie Cordaro
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Paper on Grief and Social Networking
By David Tillman
Various authors share about grief and social networking.
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Paper on Grief: Contemporary Theory and the Practice of Ministry
By David Tillman
A paper on dealing with and understanding grief and loss. Three Dimensions of Grief: Disenfranchised Grief, Chronic Sorrow:, Grief born of injustice:
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Paper on Bereavement Care and Counseling
By David Tillman
A paper with quotations from Howard Clinebell's book on the Resources for the Ministry of Healing and Growth
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A Paper on "The Denial Of Death" by Ernest Becker
By David Tillman
"The idea of death, the fear of it, haunts the human animal like nothing else; it is a mainspring of human activity – activity designed largely to avoid the fatality of death..."
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Paper on "All Our Losses, All Our Griefs" by Mitchell and Anderson
By David Tillman
“This is a book about loss: how serious personal losses take place, why we react to loss as we do, how many important forms of loss goes unnoticed..."
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